by Mara-Alexandra Florea
From mothers to daughters, since the beginning of the time, there was a legacy. The young girl will see her mother in the evening, getting ready for going out, facing her round mirror and putting on miracle creams and pomades, and spritzing on her décolletage floral, exotic perfumes, that soak the room in the most glamorous feeling. With a sharpened black pencil, she would draw her eye line, flicking it at the end, and her eyes would suddenly seem wider, deeper, exactly like a cat. From the corner of her mirror, she would look and ask if anybody would be so kind to help her zip her knee high wool beige dress and the little princess would say in a heartbeat ‘’Of course!”. She would give her a kiss on the forehead with her bare rosy lips, and then in an instant the rosy flushed color would be a deep bloody matte red. The young girl would regard at her mother with admiration. Like all of the young girls who observe their mothers in awe, I wanted to grow older so I could use the same tricks of seduction and have my little moments of spoiling my skin and senses.
I thought it was so easy to be a woman, but come to think of it now, it is not. The beautiful girl is active, elegant, well-mannered, intelligent and she is made of pizzazz. Audrey Hepburn and Kay Thompson give a 103 minutes long lesson on how to be lovely, and I must admit that it was one of the most delightful screenings on this matter I have ever seen. Seduction is not about catching men’s attention and a few whistles here and there. It lies in the littlest cells in a woman’s body starting from the trademark naivety, dreamy eyes to see that ‘’Life’s delirious, nothing serious!’’. Crossing a bridge to the other side of seduction, where dreamy eyes matter, but what counts more is the body language and sassiness, corsets and lace, one would say those are two different sides of the same paper. As we, mortals, have the same two sided nature, the sense and sensuality of a woman is immortal. It’s quite difficult to point the dominant side when talking about the key of seduction. Some master the “nice’n’sweet” while others vibrate within everything that has to do with risk and adventure – though, let’s not cross the barrier to immorality and promiscuity.
To find confidence and express your sensuality, one reaches out to small things for getting that boost of energy with a touch of sexiness. It might be a new way of mastering a soft smoky eye, a cherry red lipstick, a long forgotten dress or a new song. Seduction implies creativity and a rich imagination cancels any trace of dullness. I’m not the one to say whether men want this or that or how to act in order to get the man of your dreams. I strongly believe that seduction lies in each of us and the power gained through this does not only gets you the world, but it makes you give yourself to the it. In some times along our life we will not, by any chance, be in the mood for seduction and sensuality, and that’s ok. As I said, it’s hard work. On the same note, nothing good will come out of not feeling comfortable in a certain posture. As classical beauty, burlesque star, Dita von Teese claims, a woman should not be overwhelmingly sexual in the way she dresses. A little mystery is always key in making a good, yet provoking first impression. She also teaches young women that as well as make up, one should not overdo it. If you want to bring out your décolletage or show a little bit more of your legs, that’s wonderful, but never at the same time. Oh, how right miss von Teese is!
From another point of view, methods that women reached from the dawn of times to seduce and be beautiful come in a variety of forms. Nevertheless, come with a variety of feelings like pain, torture and mutilation. For most women the quote: ,,There is no beauty without pain”, is familiar. Until the present days many of us dye, shave, pluck our hair, squeeze our feet in uncomfortable heels and even do drastic changes to our faces and bodies with surgical interventions. A millennium ago, Chinese women practiced the foot binding also known as “lotus feet“. It was the custom of applying painfully tight binding to the feet of young girls to prevent further growth. The practice possibly originated among upper-class court dancers during the Five Dynasties and Ten Kingdoms period in Imperial China in the 10th century. One of the few survivors, practitioners of this custom, Wang Lifen, gives details about the technique and what it meant to have bound feet in those times. She was only 7 years old when her mother started binding her feet.“Young bones are soft and you can manipulate them easily’’, she remembers. After her mother died, Wang kept doing it to herself, manipulating her toes and feet until they broke. “At that time, bound feet were a status symbol, the only way for a woman to marry into money“. In Wang’s case, her in-laws had demanded the matchmaker find their son a wife with tiny feet. It was only after the wedding, when she finally met her husband for the first time, that she discovered he was an opium addict. With a life encompassing bound feet and an opium-addict husband, she’s a remnant from another age”, sources like http://npr.org say.
Even tough, she didn’t feel pain anymore, she was one of the lasts remaining with bounded feet. Another interesting aspect when come to think of what women could do for beauty, is that Wang Lifen’s years of torture still at an older age felt the lingering pride regarding her youth and status. In one way or another, older women cherish the memory of themselves at younger age. Remembering the times, the customs. I asked my grandmother earlier today what did she do when she had to go out- getting ready wise. Her eyes sparkle within seconds and there came an hour of detailed memories. I heard her talking about white crisp shirts with lace motives, midi black skirts and delicate sandals. Some things are different today.
All in all, dear young beautiful women, finding your inner sensuality and ways of seduction might come as a complicated task. Are you an angel or a demon? Shy and lovely or sassy? Either way, all that matters is to feel comfortable within your clothes, your shoes, your lipstick and most importantly yourself. There is no taking sides here and this is an absolute truth, but happy girls are the prettiest girls. So let’s give ‘em pizzazz!
Until the next time, my sensual divas, tell me in the comments bellow what do you do to spoil your senses?